Relived!!!

Note: Do read the previous blog, to get into the groove!

Following up my very previous post , If you are so negative about the arranged marriage system, why don’t you find yourself a guy? - I can hear some people scream already. Read on…Everything that I’ve expressed is based on what I’ve seen around me

Life is a roller coaster ride:

Distinct Reliving in Life-
1. Best efforts for LM- Guy Backed out of the relationship. Reason- Guy's parents not liking the girl as wheatish complexion and not smart, Kundali not matching and stuffs. Thunderclouds to the promises.
2. Having a dread towards arrange marriage- Just go forward and here to a great surprise just after two days of getting engaged, girl calls off her engagement, her future is doomed., Family and Guy is not willing to go ahead with the commitment. Reasons if asked would be(Obliging/Pressurizing): chhota sa ghar hai, ladki se face pe daag hai, Function wasn't lavish, food prepared was out of focus(I wasn’t the bride and my father did not exhaust his life’s savings on different varieties and to there concern) and more..to pen down: Bullshit reasons

They all want ‘fair and homely’ wives. How can you demand a beautiful bride when you yourself are hideous? How can you pin point flaws when you yourself are flawed?

It just leaves me torn(kuna jalta hai). More than me , my Parents were in torment! I've given about many chances, and so far managed to blow every single one of them right? yet I know how it felt to be left alone when all you needed was someone to talk to and someone that would be there for you to try to life you up, and not being able to find it. The period when you suddenly remember the scent of someone you had almost forgotten..A hint of bitterness....The flavor of life...

First off, the person I am head over heels for has had his first real feeling of being ditched by the person. Some veer off into the ditches of overcompensating in their physical strength, others of avoiding and withdrawing from life-giving relationships. Again, not easy. And I really want to feel bad for them, but in a way I can't. I know that seems awful, but is it really? Been putting me through for the past years, and while I feel terrible that has to go through it, I'm hoping maybe it'll open there eyes to what a jerk they had been to me and make them to act better. Some are just spoiled little boys in men’s bodies, just as some women are adult females still acting like spoiled little girls. We women have the the influence to encourage them to get back on the road, or send them off a cliff. Don't get me wrong, reader!!! Been saddened a little bit then laughed with a pain in my heart. Now I'm moving on again. when things do not go the way you want,it doesn't mean you’ve thrown your life away: When asked ‘what’s wrong?’ I answer ‘it’s nothing’.

Read long back: “A man’s physical and internal make-up is to enter, create, form shape out of chaos. He is a planter and pursuer who enters his world with strength and courage. He impacts ideas, objects and institutions; he protects and provides for his family. His strength strongly awakens a woman’s tenderness; his courage ought to strengthen her heart to fight her battles.”
Husbands are prone to wander from the home where they will be nurtured into balanced men. Wives are the warriors for the relationships of the family unit, tenderizing the hearts and risking conflict, loneliness and rejection for building love between family members."